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DIY Skin-Loving Deodorant

 

Ya’ll know I love a good DIY, and I’m kinda a crunchy granola mamma, too. Early this year I decided that I wanted to try making my own deodorant. The aluminum and other ingredients in commercial antiperspirants are controversial and since my grandmother died recently from advanced Alzheimers, let’s just say if I could find an acceptable stink-stopping replacement that is natural and sans chemicals and heavy metals, I’m all over it.DIY Deoderant

So early this year I tried a recipe I found online. And it was ok. Occasionally I’d have to reapply during the day, which wasn’t too big a deal.

But you know me….I have to tweak….I’m hardwired to mess with something and try to make it better than it was before, so the next time I made it, I added a little bit of Vitamin E oil…no bueno. It made the deodorant not hold up very well in the heat, and the heat from my hands (during application) would make it a slimy mess…so I knew more tweaking was needed.

TEH-bentoniteclayThen I heard about (or rather was reintroduced, actually) to bentonite clay. A friend had given me some YEARS ago to help with a skin issue one of my kids was having. Bentonite clay is DA BOMB! It can be used in all kinds of skin products and even toothpaste!

Commence with the tweaking! So I made up a batch of deodorant with bentonite clay and…..deodorant NIRVANA! This recipe creates a VELVETY SMOOTH, slightly citrus smelling concoction that not only keeps my pits stink-free, but makes my skin feel amazing! Additionally, the discoloration under my arms was gone after using this deodorant for a few days….there’s some detoxifying going on there!

Oh, and it is less expensive than buying commercial deodorant, which is an added bonus!

A couple of tips to remember:

*Bentonite clay is a detoxifying product which is AWESOME, but also means that you want to avoid storing it in metal, using metal bowls or spoons, as it lessens the effectiveness of the clay. I did use metal bands and lids on top of my jars because I was out of these awesome plastic lids, but since it doesn’t come in contact with the deodorant, it’s not an issue. I bought my Redmond Clay at my local health food store, because it was on sale, but it can also be purchase through Amazon. 

*Shea butter doesn’t like high heat. Melt your oils on LOW heat to avoid the grainy texture that is created by using too high a temperature when melting.

*Beeswax comes in bars or in pastilles (little bit pieces). The pastilles are more expensive, but may save you a knuckle or two as grating the bars is hard work.

*You can use any one of a number of essential oils, or combinations of essential oils. The trick is to use oils that have properties that enhance the objective (kill bacteria-which causes pit stink, condition skin, smell lovely) and cause no harm (sometimes citrus oils and others can cause photo-sensitivity, so if your pits spend any time in the sun, you may need to exercise caution).

*Dedicated equipment….I actually went to my local thrift store and purchased some things like a sauce pan, glass bowl, cheese grater (for grating beeswax), etc that are dedicated to DIY projects here at home. This saves the sometimes horrendous cleanup of beeswax on your nice pots and pans, and bowls….yes, I do speak from experience.

*You CAN actually recycle your old deodorant containers if you don’t like using your fingers. I did this a few times, but dislike trying to clean out the old containers and found that I don’t mind using my fingers to apply at all, especially with the velvety texture, and the absence of residue after washing.

*The deodorant has a slightly gray appearance from the clay, however, I have not had a problem with my clothing being stained…certainly less than with the commercial deodorant. You can always use a stain spray on your whites/lights if you’re concerned.

Now let us commence with the recipe!

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Printable Recipe Card
Makes 2 4-ounce mason jars

Ingredients:

  • 1/3 cup coconut oil
  • 3 Tablespoons beeswax, grated, or pastilles
  • 2 Tablespoons shea butter
  • 1/3 cup arrowroot powder
  • 1 1/2 Tablespoons baking soda
  • 1 1/2 Tablespoons bentonite clay
  • Essential oils

Directions:

  1. Melt coconut oil and beeswax in a saucepan over LOW heat, stirring frequently until beeswax is completely melted.
  2. Remove from heat and add shea butter and stir until melted.
  3. In a small glass or plastic bowl, mix arrowroot, baking soda, and bentonite clay. Add essential oils and mix to combine with a plastic or wooden spoon.
  4. Add oil mixture and mix quickly, until thoroughly combined.
  5. Pour into jars. Tap jars against counter top to release any air bubbles. Let cool, covered with a paper towel, until completely cooled. Seal with a lid. Let cure about 24 hours before using.
  6. Apply a small amount with clean fingers to underarm area, once a day as needed.

ESSENTIAL OIL Combinations:

  • 15 drops Tea Tree Oil & 7 drops Lemongrass
  • 10 drops Lavendar Oil, 5 drops Tea Tree Oil, & 5 drops Peppermint Oil
  • 10 drops Peppermint Oil, 10 drops Tangerine Oil (use care with citris oils as they can cause photo-sensitivity)
  • 5 drops Tea Tree Oil, 5 drops Lavendar Oil, 5 drops Rosemary Oil, & 5 drops Peppermint Oil

 

Making your own deodorant really takes almost no time (10 minutes, maybe?) and creates a great, effective, and natural product that is perfect for all you crunchy families out there. You can even come up with oil combinations that will make your man happy.

Making deodorant is one more way I’ve found to make peace and preparedness a part of EVERY DAY LIFE.

Have you ever made your own deodorant? Do you have trouble with or concerns about commercial deodorants, that would make trying this DIY Deodorant a great idea? I’d love to hear from you, so leave a comment!

How To Find Balance In Your Life As A Busy Mom

I love the mormonchannel.org, so when they contacted me about whether or not I’d be interested in having them do some guest posts on my blog, I was thrilled. My role as a mom is the most important one in my journey as the essential homemaker, because everything I do is based on raising great people. And I’m not going to kid you, and I’m sure I’m preaching to the choir, it’s hard. Like HARD. But I’ve determined that, as in every other area in my life, if I can just find balance, everything will fall into place.

Here’s a great post from the mormonchannel.org on finding that balance.

healthy-balance-blog-postAs a mom, your family comes first. And they should. When you choose to start a family, you’re also choosing not to be the No. 1 priority in your life — your family takes that slot.

Being a mom is a very important and divinely instituted role, but you can’t forget about your identity as an individual. Your family may be your No. 1 priority, but you still have to make yourself a priority!

For your own well-being and your family’s well-being, you need a proper balance in your life, giving time to your family and their needs and also allowing time for yourself and the things you enjoy doing. You’ll be an overall happier person, and a happier and better wife and mother, when you learn to give balanced time to your family and yourself. If you don’t have happiness in your own life, how are you supposed to give it to your family? If you don’t take care of yourself, how can you expect to take care of your family?

It’s not always an easy balance. Some days you may feel like you didn’t get anything done you needed to.

While trying to meet all your family’s needs and your own is a challenging balancing act, it’s an achievable one, and here are four tips to ensure you give the needed time and attention to your family and yourself.

1. Plan ahead and create a schedule.

You probably already have a family schedule where you plan your week out at the beginning of every week. If you’re like me and you don’t write something down, you’ll forget it. You plan ahead for and write down every basketball practice, doctor’s visit, and play date, so do the same for your “me” time. Schedule it on your calendar so it actually happens. It doesn’t have to be long. It can be anywhere from five to 30 minutes a day or week where you sit on your patio and read or call a friend just to chat. Treat this time as seriously as you do with all your kids’ practices and doctor’s visits.

2. Earn the support of your family.

This might not be the easiest task to accomplish on this list, but it needs to be done. Gather your whole family together or talk to them one-on-one, whichever you think is best, and explain that you’re not abandoning them but that you just need some time to yourself every once in awhile. Compromise with them and help them understand why it’s important for you to take this time. Earning their support will make it easier on them and you when your scheduled “me” time arrives.

3. Don’t do everything for your kids when they’re capable.

You want your kids to think you’re the perfect mom; that you’re Super Mom! But you’re not — and that’s completely OK. You can’t do everything by yourself, and you shouldn’t have to, especially if your kids are old enough to do things on their own. It’s your responsibility to nurture and care for your kids, but it’s also your responsibility to teach your kids how to do things for themselves, i.e. making their own school lunch, packing their book bag for the next day, folding and putting away their clothes, etc. When your mind knows you physically can’t and shouldn’t have to do everything for your kids and your kids know they have responsibilities of their own, your motherly balancing act becomes a lot easier to achieve.

4. Rid yourself of the guilt.

One of the main reasons moms struggle to take even a few minutes a day for themselves is because they feel guilty for doing so. Don’t! Rid yourself of any guilt. It’s not selfish to still make yourself a priority in your life. A great mother is one who sacrifices herself, her time and energy, for her family, but who also is able to give of herself. Without taking care of yourself and achieving your own happiness every so often, you can’t give that to your kids. Rid yourself of the guilt, and give yourself time to be a mom and a woman.

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Thanks to the mormonchannel.org! I don’t know about you, but I’m looking forward to seeing more from them.

The Art of Time Management

I struggle….I mean STRUGGLE with time management. There is so much going on….things that need doing, places I have to be, 1/2 a million kids with different stories that distract. As a person who is easily overwhelmed, organization and time management are critical to my productivity, and well, my general well being. But that doesn’t translate into “good at it.” I’m trying all the time to figure out how to keep it together. (Side note: for Mother’s Day my daughter filled out an “all about my mom” page in primary….incidentally, “My Mom is good at: everything” and “My Mom isn’t very good at: keeping it together.” OUCH.)

I ran across a Facebook post by one of my favorite people to follow, Jennifer Wilson over at Simple Scrapper. She wrote a great article this week on Time Management and I loved what she had to say. Although it’s written for a scrapbooking site, it’s principles are applicable to life in general. Check it out: My Every Day Productivity Tricks by Jennifer Wilson. It got me thinking (again) about how to make my day more productive.

Her number one is also my #1 way to stay ahead of the game: Get Up Earlier.

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Because of health issues and fatigue, I have struggled (ah, there’s that word again) with this so much lately. I don’t always wake early, and when I do, I’m not always able to get up right away. Let me tell you that when I DO get up earlier (15 minutes earlier that usual, or 15 minutes before anyone else….whatever “earlier” is to you), my day goes SO MUCH BETTER! I get some of those things done that I can’t do in the midst of chaos, like morning prayers and scripture study and mapping my day. And I feel like I’ve gotten some ME time.

My next favorite way to boost productivity is my planner.

IMG_5284Whether you do it in your smart phone or in a paper planner (I ADORE the Mormon Mom Planner. I’ve used it for the last two years and it helps me keep my focus and be deliberate in my….everything. You can check it out here). Prioritizing and defining your focus is so important to a productive day. It helps me see where I can fit little projects in and helps me make sure I’m where I’m supposed to be. It also helps ME because I have places to write quotes and inspiration to help me remember this years “one little word” which for me, is INTENTION. Each week I have a “sub-word” and I write ideas and quotes about that secondary idea on each weeks page. Mapping my day gives me an opportunity to make sure I’ve got all the important stuff in the forefront of my mind so I don’t forget things.

My next favorite trick to time management and productivity is the FlyLady philosophy….living life 15 minutes at a time.

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Especially when I am completely overwhelmed, setting a timer and going to work on one specific thing for 15 minutes, and then moving onto the next critical thing for 15 minutes, really helps me power through a whole lotta stuff. I get so much more done, particularly housekeeping stuff, when I operate 15 minutes at a time. And on days when I am really struggling to go, because of health issues, that 4th quarter (work on three different projects for 15 minutes and then take the 4th 15 minutes to relax, get a drink, READ A BOOK, etc) makes such a huge difference for me mentally.

Next, I find there are a few small, but critical items to be accomplished every day for maximum productivity and success. Yours might be different….

  1. Make my bed
  2. Read scriptures
  3. Pray
  4. Exercise
  5. Get dressed for the day
  6. Put in laundry
  7. Put meals in motion

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There are probably a million and one more ways to increase productivity and manage  your time as a woman, but the last one I’m going to mention that I need to remember is the importance of being fluid. Things are not always going to go according to plan. Sometimes only 3 of the 254,698 items on the to-do list are going to get done, and that’s ok. Making sure that I’m tuned in to catch a teaching moment with my children, or recognize the beauty in this amazing planet we’ve been blessed with, or realize a blessing, see a neighbor in need and help out, or share a hug or loving word with my loved ones is so much more important that having everything crossed off the list.
They are the TRULY essential things.
I never want to be so busy, so wrapped up in my to-do’s that I fail to recognize what is truly important.

I’m not there yet. Everyday is a new journey, a new attempt at managing my time and being successful at…..well, everything. But working to manage my time better and increase my personal productivity is one way I work to make PEACE and preparedness a part of EVERY DAY LIFE.

Leave me a comment and tell me YOUR favorite time management ideas!

Pinterest: My Most Popular Pins

teh_top10PI love Pinterest, don’t you? I know some people get intimidated by the sheer volume of info on Pinterest and the whole idea that one must “keep up with the Mrs. Joneses” of the world. Fortunately, I don’t fall into either category, so Pinterest and I have a close relationship. So close, in fact, that Pinterest sent me an email recently telling me viewers favorite Pins from my website. It was kinda fun to see them all, so I thought I’d share them with you, in case you missed them the first time around. I’d love for you to take a look and if you feel so moved, hover over the images in the original posts and click to pin. Here they are, my top 10, listed in popularity from 10 to 1….

TEH-pizzafeat10. Homemade Pizza: amazing homemade crust, easy and flavorful sauce, and topping ideas give you everything you need to know to kick the delivery habit and make your own flavorful, delicious and healthy pizza at home in about an hour…

 

file00018774182909. Water Storage: One of the quickest, cheapest, easiest and MOST IMPORTANT things you NEED to do NOW for your prepping…

 

TEH_tortillas12 8. Homemade Tortilla Mix: Have you ever had homemade tortillas??? Fast, easy, and SO YUMMY! You’ll never want to buy them again….

 

TEH_chcopbcrba7. Choco-Coco PB Crunch Bars: Sweet enough to be a treat, but full of good for you stuff like oats, coconut oil, natural peanut butter, these are a fast and easy bar to satisfy your hungry beasts….

 

TEH_quinoafeat6. Thrive Quinoa Energy Salad: Super healthy and packed full of good for you quinoa and veggies, this is a guaranteed energy booster…

 

 

TEH-100Bread 5. Best Ever 100% Whole Wheat Bread: Everybody LOVES homemade bread, right? Just the smell of it is pure heaven! But I’m sure, if you’ve ever baked bread that you’ve found it loses it’s appeal after a day….well, NO MORE! The recipe will give you soft fluffy bread that keeps its lovely texture for several days….you’re gonna love it!…

 

TEH-DisinfectingWipes-ingredients4. Homemade Disinfectant Cleaning Wipes (reusable): Whether you’re looking to reduce your carbon footprint or desire a departure from harsh and toxic chemical lists an arm long, this is a great “recipe” for reusable cleaning wipes to use around your home…

 

TEH_burritos93. Make Ahead Bean & Cheese Burritos: Sometimes in the effort to move away from prepackaged, processed foods, we suffer in the convenience department. With just a pinch of planning and forethought, you can have the convenience of frozen burritos at your fingertips. Your family,  your schedule, your sanity will thank you…

 

TEH_bouillon 2. Veggie, Chicken or Beef Bouillon Mix: We all love the convenience of bouillon, but many, I’m sure, bemoan the plethera of chemical compounds in commercial bouillon cubes/powder. First and foremost on the list of shame at our house is MSG. My son is allergic, so I came up with this quick and easy and MEGA-flavorful mix that includes HEALTHY on it’s list of accomplishments…

 

TEH_creamofsoup3 1. Cream of Soup Mix: Forgive the BLAH pic from one of my earliest posts. This soup mix is anything BUT blah….full of flavor and just as quick and easy as opening a can, but OH SO MUCH better for you. You can customize this Cream of Soup mix in any of a 1,000 ways and never have to run to the store again for a can of condensed soup…

 

Thanks for taking a stroll through memory lane with me….it was fun to see what the most popular pins on my website have been since January 2013 when I started my little blog. I’d love to know YOUR favorite post on my blog, or which post you’ve pinned to Pinterest. I’d also love to know your favorite posts from out there in digiworld that help YOU make Peace and Preparedness a part of Every Day Life so I can go take a gander, so leave me a comment! I always read them!

 

DIY Food: Creamy Tomato Basil Soup

Don’t you love convenience? I really love convenience….

There is a certain canned soup company that was part of my cooking repertoire almost daily until a couple of years ago. Their condensed soups made cooking quick and easy. But once you start reading labels, there’s no going back, and I now make my cream of soup mix and use it anytime I need Cream of Mushroom, or Cream of Chicken soup.TEH_creamofsoup3

I didn’t have a convenient substitute for the  condensed tomato soup, until recently, so we stopped eating all the recipes we used to have that used it.  I never loved the condensed tomato soup….it was too sweet and wimpy in flavor, so I am THRILLED that Thrive’s Tomato Sauce Mix is bursting with flavor, doesn’t have the “sweet” taste and is in my Home Store…yep, keep it in my pantry.sauces-tomato_1Sometimes, you don’t want (or have the time) to spend hours slaving over the hot stove. You’ve got a million different directions you’re running and need dinner on the table ASAP. This is a great “kid approved” dinner you can have on the table in 20 minutes or less (I say less, because if you don’t have 8 people in your house, it’ll probably take you a lot less time that it does in our house).


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Serves 4-6
Printable Recipe Card

Ingredients:

  • 4 cups water
  • 1 cup Thrive Tomato Sauce Mix (NOT Tomato Powder)
  • 1 1/2-2 cups whole milk, Half & Half, or cream (I prefer a mix of whole milk and Half & Half)
  • 1 tablespoon Thrive Freeze Dried Basil
  • 1 1/2 teaspoons garlic powder
  • salt and pepper, to taste

Directions:

  1. Bring water to a boil in sauce pan. In the meantime, combine Tomato Sauce Mix, basil, and garlic powder in a bowl.
  2. When water reaches a boil, whisk sauce mixture into the boiling water.
  3. Reduce heat and simmer and whisk 2-3 minutes.
  4. Add cream, Half & Half, or whole milk, and salt and pepper to taste, and heat through. Add more milk as needed to reach desired consistency.

*To make a more hearty soup, add a tablespoon or two of any or all of the following: Thrive Sausage Crumbles, Thrive Chopped Spinach, Thrive Freeze Dried Chopped Onions, or Thrive Zucchini.

**If you’re making this 100% from your Home Store, you can substitute 1/2 cup Thrive Instant Milk Powder, 2 cups water, and 1 tablespoon Thrive Butter Powder for the whole milk/cream/Half & Half

Serve with Grilled Cheese Sandwiches or a handful of saltine crackers for a delicious and easy meal.


What is YOUR favorite quick and easy “kid approved” meal? Have you had to make any changes to it, in order to make it healthier?

Thanks for stopping by, and as always, I look forward to your comments!

Thrive: A BIG DEAL Sale!! Save $$!

Big news on the horizon! Thrive just announced a big sale April 9-20…and it’s gonna be BIG! Starts on Thursday!

All the Thrive Life products are going to be on sale and many of the Food Storage Rotation units (shelves) and emergency equipment, too!

 

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You can look at all the sale items on my BIG DEAL page, but you must be logged in to see the sale prices on the picker page.

**If you order through me directly by phone (801-367-1607) or email (click on the “Contact Me” tab above), you can get 10% of your total in free product and possible some 1/2 off goodies, so contact me to earn some awesome free stuff!

Kitchen Tip: Onion Powder

Happy love month! What better to talk about for the month of love than ONION POWDER! I know, right?!?

I ran out, the other day…like completely out. None in my cupboard, none on my handy pantry Home Store spice shelf…NONE.

I must admit to a moment of panic….before I remembered that I had some Thrive Chopped Onions in my Home Store. Phew….dodged a bullet.

If you ever find yourself in a similar predicament, all you need to do is follow these two simple steps….

TEH-onionpowder11. dump chopped onions (the dehydrated kind) into your blender.

2. turn on the blender and take those babies for a spin.

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You’ll end up with fantastic, perfect, and dinner-saving onion powder.

Now THAT’s making peace and preparedness a part of everyday life.

Have you ever tried making your own spices or seasonings? I’d love to hear about it, so leave me a comment!

Coming soon, my recipe for Dry Onion Soup Mix….LOVE it…use it everything from Stroganoff to Dip. See you soon!

DIY Food: Buttermilk Wheat Pancake Mix

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Hello! How is your January going? Exciting news today! My little site is TWO YEARS OLD! Can you believe it? Happy Blog-o-versary to me!

Anywho….

Mix cooking is one of my favorite things. I can use ingredients I feel good about, have something prepped ahead of time, and get food on the table in a fraction of the time at any given moment.

Today I want to share one of my favorite mixes, Buttermilk Wheat Pancake Mix…in fact, I have to admit that I prefer it to regular pancakes, mix made or otherwise. It’s that good. Oh yeah, and did I mention that it costs a fraction of what you’d spend on pancake mix at the store? And that your kids can whip it up on their own? You need to try this one. You may have all the ingredients you need, right there in your Home Store. So what are we waiting for?

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I highly recommend you grind your own wheat into flour, simply because it will have more nutrients, but if you don’t have wheat or a grinder, feel free to do whatever. If you want a true whole grain pancake, but love the consistency of a part whole grain pancake, Wonder Flour may be your next favorite thing. Wonder Flour was created by Chef Brad, a grain dynamo (more about him here) and is produced by grinding equal parts Spelt, Brown Rice, and Barley. It makes a delicious whole grain flour that produces baked goods that have the texture (light and fluffy) of all purpose flour. It’s so great! It’s not something to use in yeast breads (or not more than maybe 20% of the total flour) because it doesn’t have much gluten in it, and that is generally important in yeast breads. Give this one a try!

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You CAN mix all your ingredients into a big container with a lid and measure out 3 1/2 cups of mix whenever you want to make pancakes, but I like to take it a step further, and use zip top bags with single recipes. So I set up with about 10 ziptop bags (quart sized) open and standing up. I measure ingredients straight into them, for example, do all the white flour, then all the wheat flour, then the sugar in all of them, and so on. This can get tricky, if you suffer from DHS (Distracted Homemaker Syndrome…also known as CHILDREN) so I alternate sides of the bags, so if I get interrupted, I can tell which bags already got baking soda in them, and which ones only have baking powder in them. You get me?

Then I just store them in a bin in the pantry and make up a batch once or twice a week. Super easy.
Thrive products listed are my preferred products but can be exchanged for your favorite brand.

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printable recipe card
Makes about 24 pancakes
Ingredients:

Add to quart sized zip-top bag:

1 1/2 cups Thrive Unbleached Flour or Wonder Flour (see above)
1 1/2 cups Thrive Hard White Wheat, freshly ground OR Thrive Whole Wheat Flour
1/3 cup Thrive Cane Sugar
1 tablespoon Thrive Baking Powder
1 tablespoon Thrive Baking Soda
1 teaspoon Thrive Iodized Salt

Store in ziptop bag in pantry for up to 3 months.

To make pancakes:
3 cups Buttermilk
3 large eggs, lightly beaten OR 3 tablespoons Thrive Whole Egg Powder (add to dry ingredients) and 6 tablespoons water (add to wet ingredients)
2 tablespoons butter, oil, or coconut oil
2 teaspoons vanilla extract

Directions:

Dump pancake mix into a large mixing bowl.
Measure wet ingredients into a medium sized bowl or 4 cup measuring cup, and whisk well to combine.
Add wet ingredients to dry, stirring until just moistened.
Drop by 1/4 cupfuls onto a hot griddle and cook, flipping when bubbles appear on the top side of the cakes.
Serve with syrup, cottage cheese, apple butter, jam, jelly or whatever you like.

TIP: You can add 2 teaspoons of Thrive Pure Vanilla Powder to your zip-top bag when assembling your dry ingredients into the mix, and omit it in the wet ingredients.

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You know you want some hot, delicious, golden pancakes! I’d love to know what your favorite pancake topping is…my personal favorite is cottage cheese with some apple butter and a sprinkle of granola…but I’m a little weird like that. I’d love to hear if you make this mix! Leave me a comment and say howdy!

* Some links in this post are affiliate links meaning, at no additional cost to you, I may receive a small commission if you make a purchase after clicking on the link. Thank you for your support. It means a lot to me and my family.

Peace: Who is the Essential Homemaker???

Several months ago, during a horribly difficult time, one of my incredibly sweet and well-meaning friends paid me a compliment and said something about how I know how to do anything and have it all together….in the middle of this HUGE mental and emotional breakdown….and I thought…”oh my goodness, I’m a fraud!” I’m falling to pieces, and people think I have it all together…..or worse, do they see that I’m going to pieces, and think that I THINK I have it all together??

So I descended into this pit of stress paralysis* (yes it IS a thing….) and could not blog for months. I did stuff in and around my home to continue to learn and become better at “making peace and preparedness a part of every day life” ….barely…but I couldn’t say one word about it. And I didn’t do as much of it as I used to…I was just stuck. Fortunately, my stress paralysis passed…funny enough, right about the time my incredibly difficult time passed…funny enough, right about the time my legion of wonderful children went back to school. Suddenly, I was productive again and could think about sharing what I was learning with others. And so I began blogging again.

 

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But it got me thinking….who is the Essential Homemaker?? Is she perfect? Does she have it all together? Is she a paragon of virtue and ability? (And I’m only writing “she” because it’s easier and looks better than “he/she” but guys, know that you’re included.)

I decided it was of the utmost importance to me, to define who the Essential Homemaker is.

So typically, when I want to figure something out, I turn to good old Webster. I find out what the accepted definition of a word is, and go from there. Therefore, consult Webster’s Dictionary with me.
Essential:
   a: of, relating to, or constituting essence :  inherent
  
b: of the utmost importance :  basic, indispensable, necessary

So far, so good. I can work with that…..next…
Homemaker:
a wife who does work (such as sewing, cleaning, or cooking) at home and usually does not have    another job outside the home
Wha??? Now, that I must take issue with. It seems outdated and a little too gender specific. Because I don’t know about you, but I do LOTS of jobs outside the home. I am an Independent Consultant for Thrive Life, I volunteer doing work at the school, and in my church. And I really believe that Homemaking has come to encompass more than just sewing, cleaning and cooking. Additionally, I know MEN who are the homemakers for their family. Perhaps Webster was thinking along the lines of a “Housewife” when he created that nifty little definition.
Homemaking is defined by dictionary.com as a person who manages the household of his or her own family, especially as a principal occupation. NOW we are getting somewhere.
Incidentally, the word Homemaker has somewhat of a negative connotation in the world we live in, where one’s ability to amass  money, determines their worth. This, I definitely take issue with. My worth is not determined by how much money I get paid for what I do. My worth is inherent in me, as a daughter of God. It has nothing to do with anything I do. However, my calling in life, that I am privileged to be able to do, is to be a homemaker. To manage my home and raise children, create a safe place for my family, and to do all I can to prepare my family for the future and life that can change at any moment. To create good citizens and Christians who will grow up to raise MORE good citizens and Christians. And here’s the cool thing….homemaking is INHERENT (see above under Essential definition) in me, because of who I am….again, a daughter of God. It is the ESSENCE of my existence. Because of what I believe and what I know. And is is indispensable…I know lots of people manage to survive without a homemaker in the home, whether by choice or necessity and I’m not criticizing anyone who has chosen that path, because that decision is up to each of us. But for ME, I have the INHERENT ability, created in my very ESSENCE, that leads me to be a homemaker, the roll of which is INDISPENSABLE to my family. The Essential Homemaker.
(no my house doesn’t always look like this…it’s just a bad day, haha)
So, am I perfect? Uh….sadly, no. Do I have it all together?? Not even a little. Am I a great guru of amazingness….no. Well, maybe. Uh……no. But I’m open to doing what I feel prompted to do by my Heavenly Father…and THAT is where the amazingness comes in. Being willing to be led by one greater than myself…and performing what I have been called to do…which really means I can’t take any credit for any of it. I’m more of a sink full of dirty dishes while I try to experiment to see if I can make jello with no artificial ingredients/colors/flavors, etc kind of gal. Ninety-eight percent of the time. So, really more of a mess, than amazingness. I haven’t given up, though…I’m still working on perfection.

But I am SHE. The Essential Homemaker. And if you are reading this humble little blog, then chances are you are the Essential Homemaker as well. Because we are trying to do what we feel we’ve been called to do. And that is enough.

*If you have no clue what I’m referring to, go watch Moms’ Night Out….you will die laughing….or sit in a puddle and sob, depending on how close to real life it is at that moment…but either way, you’ll love it. You can thank me later.

Please, please, please (and on and on…yes, this IS me begging) leave me a message. Let me know you’re out there, and that you read my blog. Let me know if you’ve seen Moms’ Night Out and if you can relate.

Thrive: January Specials

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January is all about re-evaluating your health and making goals for the new year and Thrive is making it easy with their specials this month. Good for you Quinoa, fruits and veggies, and Instant Brown Rice. Since Quinoa is such a hot deal this month, here’s one of my favorite quinoa recipes: Thrive Quinoa Energy Salad

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This is so yummy and really good for you. Give it a try and you will be glad you did.

The Strawberries and Cranberries are both yummy in this Summer Porridge recipe. The cranberries are not sweetened at all, so you may want to adjust your sweetener of choice when you use them.

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If you have a Thrive Q, go ahead and order your January Specials right from your Q dashboard. If you don’t, have a Q but would like to know more, or would like the best possible pricing on the sale items, contact me at 801-367-1607 or email me at emailimage

Have a great weekend and keep on making peace and preparedness a part of every day life.